It’s easy to feel as though your family is divided. Maybe it’s due to political opinions, college plans, or something else entirely, but if something is making family time rocky, it can be hard to know how to proceed. While you can’t repair damage overnight, there are steps you can take to prevent the situation from getting worse.
First, it’s important to remember that people feel hurt for many reasons. Maybe they don’t think they’re being listened to, or maybe they feel that their opinion doesn’t matter as much as someone else’s. This can be especially true for the youngest members of a family, or sometimes the oldest, if grandparents are involved.
No matter how divided your family feels, here are a few tips to help bring them together again:
Plan a Game or Movie Night
Movie and game nights that include the whole family are great for creating togetherness, but spending a little one-on-one time can be even more beneficial, especially for young children. It’s one thing to be part of something that involves every member of the family, but spending time with each individual member can really re-enforce the feeling of importance.
Spending time in the kitchen can help foster better relationships. If you bake during the holidays, including your family in the effort can help make great family memories and start some new traditions. Even just cooking dinner together can be a good experience: consider letting your children come up with some creative ideas for different meals. If you decorate cookies for Christmas or color eggs for Easter, let the family help. Don’t worry about the finished result – just have some fun!
Along with cooking together, make time to eat together too. You don’t have to sit down at the table for every meal, or even every day – just one shared meal per week can really help bring make your family closer. Find a day that works with everyone’s schedules, and plan a meal that everyone will enjoy. It doesn’t have to be fancy, either: make (or buy) burgers, if that’s what your family decides on. The food doesn’t matter, so long as you’re taking time to enjoy each other’s company.
Attend City Events Together
If you’re looking for something fun to do outside the house, consider looking for local festivals. Most cities put on events for major holidays, and some host wine tastings or book signings, or even cultural festivals. Find something that appeals to your family, and go have fun!
At the end of the day, the specifics don’t really matter. Spending time with your family in any way will make everyone feel important and valued. Just remember to listen and let their opinions be heard, and spend time doing things everyone will enjoy.