When you look in the mirror, do you like what you see? Do you like the bumps on your face, your wide hips, the gap in your front teeth? When you sit at a business meeting, do you doubt that you have any unique ideas to offer to the company? Do you feel less talented or less qualified than your coworkers and peers? If you’ve ever had these moments, then you know what it’s like to feel insecure about yourself. Insecurity causes you to doubt yourself and gets in the way of both your personal life and your career.
Luckily, there are ways to help you tackle your insecurities so that nothing can keep you from becoming the awesome being you are.
It’s Okay to Have Feelings of Insecurity
When feelings of insecurity creep up inside of us, most times we have no idea where they came from. The outfit that looked so stunning on you in your bedroom mirror feels downright tacky in the presence of others, or the presentation you spent all week researching and preparing for feels like the work of an amateur compared to that of your office peers, or the heartfelt confession you’ve spent hours reciting escapes you when you are finally alone with your crush. In the presence of others, you start to doubt yourself in ways that weren’t there previously.
And that’s okay.
Insecurity is an emotion just like any other, and emotions overcome us whether we want them to or not. It’s not healthy to be hard on yourself for the emotions you have, insecurity included. Instead, acknowledge that the feeling is there and work on the ways to address it.
Acknowledge That There Are Parts of Yourself That You Don’t Like.
There are going to be parts of yourself that you aren’t very fond of, whether it’s the way you look, the way you talk, your way of thinking, or whatever imperfections you believe you have. The things you like about yourself and the things you don’t all make up the beautifully complex being that is you. This being said, you must accept the good with the “bad.” There is peace that comes with accepting all of who you are. However, if you feel that there are parts of you that need work, don’t be afraid to work on them.
Confidence is Everything!
This is the one thing that you’ve heard all your life but never believed to be true. Well, the bad news is that it’s true, and the good news is that it’s true! Confidence is the unconditional love of yourself and your abilities. It allows you to accept your strengths and weaknesses as a part of the powerful being you are. Which is why confidence is such a great tool to combat insecurity, because it prevents doubt from getting the better of you. Of course being confident is easier written than done, but it all begins with believing in yourself. Believe in yourself, even if only for a moment, and the confidence will follow.
Everyone Has Insecurities. Yes, We Mean Everyone
As hard as it may seem to believe, everyone has insecurities. It doesn’t matter how old they are, how beautiful they are, how talented they are, or how much money they have; there will always be something that makes someone feel insecure. Celebrities, those who we look up to and admire, are no strangers to feelings of insecurity either. Once you know that others go through what you’re going through, it lets you know that you’re not alone.
“I have insecurities of course, but I don’t hang out with anyone who points them out to me.” -Adele
“You have to confront your insecurities quite a lot, and I have plenty, plenty of insecurities. Even more now.” -Robert Pattinson
“I have days where I feel like the ugliest person on the planet.” -Alexander Skarsgard
“I have self-doubt. I have insecurity. I have fear of failure…We all have self-doubt. You don’t deny it, but you don’t capitulate to it. You embrace it.” -Kobe Bryant
Insecurity Stands in the Way of Your Goals, So Don’t Let That Happen!
We all become afraid of pursuing our goals at some point, but more often than not, it isn’t realizing the amount of work we will have to do that keeps us from success; it’s the doubt. You start to think you’re not talented enough to land that job, not smart enough to earn that raise, not disciplined enough to lose that weight. Insecurity breeds self-doubt, so remember to down an extra dose of confidence and don’t let your insecurities keep you from achieving your goals!
Strive to be the Best You Can Be!
A lot of our insecurities come from us comparing ourselves to those around us, when we ignore the good qualities about ourselves and crave the good qualities that others have. However, there will always be someone better than you at something, but no one is better at being you than you. When you strive to better yourself and the things that you excel in, there is no longer the need to compare yourself to others. Once you find the peace within yourself that’s free from unhelpful comparisons, you’ll be able to properly deal with insecurity and live to your fullest potential.